The life of a young black girl

9 signs it’s time to let go of the relationship

Letting go of a relationship is difficult, but there are some key signs that can help you recognise when it might be time to move on. Here are some things to consider when deciding if you should let go of a relationship. Written from a women’s perspective.

1. Toxic behaviours: Physical/sexual abuse, financial abuse, manipulation, coercive and controlling behaviour, and gaslighting/emotional abuse, digital/online abuse, ‘honour’-based abuse and forced marriage.

These behaviours can damage your well-being, sense of self-worth and in some cases your life could be at risk. If you experience any of these toxic behaviours I highly encourage you to leave and seek help from someone you can trust. Whether you’re a man or women, no form of abuse should be accepted from anyone.

Please refer to the bottom of this page for 24/7 help and support.

2. Trust Issues: Trust can be broken in various ways, but I believe the most damaging way you can break your partners’ trust is through infidelity.
If trust has been broken, and he isn’t taking steps to rebuild it, or you find yourself unable to trust him, the foundation of the relationship may be too shaky to repair. Anything you try to build on a Shaky foundation will eventually crumble.

3. You feel Unvalued or unhappy: If the relationship consistently makes you feel unhappy, unappreciated, or drained, it might be a sign that you’re holding on for the wrong reasons.

4. No effort to improve: Relationships require work from both partners. If he’s not putting in effort to communicate, grow, or solve problems, it shows a lack of commitment.

5. You’re always compromising: While compromise is necessary, if you’re the only one sacrificing and bending, it may indicate an imbalance in the relationship.

6. Loss of emotional or physical Intimacy: If he’s emotionally distant or avoids physical intimacy without explanation or effort to reconnect, the relationship might be losing its core bond.

7. Growing apart: Sometimes, people grow in different directions. If your values, life goals, or priorities are no longer aligned, it may be healthier to let go.

8. Consistent lack of respect: If he disrespects you through his words, actions, or behavior, and there’s no effort to change, it may be time to walk away.

9. Your needs aren’t Being met: If he consistently ignores or dismisses your emotional, mental, or physical needs, and refuses to address this, the relationship may not be fulfilling for you.

If you’re consistently feeling unhappy, undervalued, or neglected, it may be time to consider letting go. Trust your intuition and prioritise your emotional well-being. Put your happiness first.


By Rikkisha – A Young Black Girl

If you have been affected by the issues relating to this topic please see below.

Please visit:

National Domestic Abuse Helpline

Victim support 

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  • Call our national Supportline free on 08 08 16 89 111, 24/7
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  • Anyone affected by crime in England or Wales can contact us for free, confidential support. If you live in Scotland or Northern Ireland, you can contact Victim Support Scotland or Victim Support NI for help.

Samaritans 

  • www.samaritans.org
  • If you’re in distress and need support, you can ring Samaritans for free at any time of the day or night.
  • Freephone (UK and Republic of Ireland): 116 123 (24 hours)
  • Email: jo@samaritans.org

Young Minds Crisis Messenger

  • Provides free, 24/7 crisis support across the UK if you are experiencing a mental health crisis
  • If you need urgent help text YM to 85258
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Step forward 
• Free & confidential services for all young people aged 11-25, living in & around Tower Hamlets, East London
• www.step-forward.org

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